In my last post I mentioned hearts that are not available to receive what they yearn for.
I want to elaborate on that a little more in this post.
Over the years I have learned that most times we pray for things to work out in our favor, be it require the hard work of others or a full miracle that only God can provide.
Often times what we do not pray for are things that will require a lot of work from us.
We want the blessings, not the journey.
We want the man to be designed for our hearts yet we don’t want to be molded to compliment him.
We want joy but do not necessarily want to experience any pain.
And God forbid any of the things we don’t want come into fruition, we want answers! But then again, not really! 😕
What we want is our way so I ask…well, what about God’s will?

It took me a long time to stop praying for God to change other people to appease me, that was of a selfish mindset. One day during my time of reflection I really challenged myself on the of my heart, the intentions of my prayers and there were a lot that were self-serving.
I thought “what if someone is praying away the characteristics that I like about me?” That brought forth clarity on what I needed to do moving forward.
I needed to pray that I am more accepting of people in their entirety; the good, bad and ugly.
I embraced that and for those things that I don’t like about people, I call on the old faithful “Serenity Prayer”

Going back to receiving the blessings God has planned for us, I know women who have been dealt what seems to be bad luck when it comes to relationships but if you listen to them, they are often the ones standing in their own way.
To break any cycle that you’re in; personal growth must occur. Which will require you to get out of your comfort zone, be honest with yourself and “move” differently than you have in the past.
I listen as women say they want this man who is _______ and who has ________ and who will ________ but they never say what they will be or do to be ready to receive that man.
Bottom line; we have to pray for ourselves, for our hearts, for our minds.

And when you get that man, LORD knows you have to continue to pray! You may have to pray even more!
As I pray for Chocolate, I pray for myself as his partner and helpmate.
I pray that he listens to me the first time I tell him something AND I pray that I am more patient when having to repeat myself.
I pray that he is more attuned to my needs, AND I pray that I am more specific in communicating with him and that I acknowledge his efforts.
I pray that he remains honorable to our vows and he does not stray AND I pray that I don’t have to make “death do us part” 😛
Bottom line; you prayed to get him, you have to pray to keep him!

The same mindset is required in all aspect of your life; when you pray for something, don’t forget to pray and prepare yourself to be ready to receive it AND to take care and rejoice in the answered prayer!