So Chocolate and I were extremely blessed to have met when we were so young and even though we have had our share of ups and downs we still count it all joy as we are the best of friends now because of all that we endured together that helped mold us.
Working with mostly women and providing services to mostly women for the last 18 years provided me with in-depth insight to the challenges of finding “the one”!
I have seen so many women broken over relationships gone bad, I’ve seen them bitter and resentful and I’ve seen them hopeless. As a woman myself it hurts.. like hell to see these emotions from a sister (the term “sister” is not specific to any race).
When I was younger I would find myself getting angry with them, being bitter with them, being heartbroken with them. I would go home and be ready to fight with Chocolate for all women everywhere!
Then one day I realized the platform that I was given and the opportunities that were in front of me and I started to play devil’s advocate with the women I encountered and I became more of a counselor than a riled up counterpart. I no longer attended pity parties and instead found ways to empower and inspire!
I was in my 20’s giving women 2 and 3 times my age advice on relationships but more importantly advice on loving themselves first, because that defines what you allow in a relationship, be it romantic relationships or any others!

When I first heard this version of “Broken Road” by Deborah Joy Winans, it immediately brought to mind all the girlfriend sessions I’ve had over the years!
Sometimes we have to go down some broken roads to get to the plan God has for us! We cannot be deterred by the bumps along the way, instead focusing on the grander plan!
And how many of us have some years we feel that we’ve wasted on people that we would like to take back and give them to those we feel are more deserving? (Whew, honey!)
My level of discernment at this point assures me that “those people” that we want our time back from were a part of the journey, and sometimes we’re not really ready to claim our goal or prize because our hearts are not available due to the bumps along the way. (More on that to come…)

Take a look at some of the lyrics and watch the video below! It’s truly an awesome song!

“I think about the years I’ve spent,
Just passing through
I’d like to have the time I lost, and give it back to you
But you just smile and take my hand
You’ve been there, you understand
It’s all part of a grander plan that is coming true
Every long lost dream led me to where you are
Others who broke my heart, they were like northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That god bless the broken road
That led me straight to you…”