I wanted Kinsley’s post to be about her and yet I have a compelling assignment to speak to Jessie & Terrance through this blog as well, but what can I say to them to comfort them during this still challenging time some 4 months later?
Here’s where God has led me.
Terrance & Jessie,
There were only 2 of the same people in the room with Kinsley when she took her first breath into this world and when she took her last breath exiting it. That’s the two of you.
When the relationship has those moments of strain, pause and think about that! That’s a bond that can never be broken!
Lean on each other, set aside time for each other. Minimize pressures, arguments and outsiders and truly take the time you need to grieve.
Keep in mind no 2 people grieve alike or even at the same time so respect each other’s space when needed but keep open dialogue and aware to the other’s unspoken words and body language.
It’s easy to lash out on each other and to be at odds but I encourage you both to stop & think when feeling the urge to lash out. Think about how the other person may be feeling, think about how you are feeling and communicate with love.
When you feel like challenging each other or pointing out a negative in the other, I challenge you to redirect your thoughts and think of something you love about the other person. Think of what they maybe aren’t saying that they need from you.
You 2 are so strong, we have all watched you do everything within your power for your baby girl and we are all so proud of the strength and tenacity that you showed then and continue to show!
Every decision was hard and I know you’re both still full of what ifs but you chose the right things, you prayed about them and God ordered your steps every step of the way.
Kinsley’s life had a purpose for all of us; take time with God to seek what that was for you!
Maybe you visit children’s hospital and hand out gifts to the kids in the cardiac wing every year on her birthday, maybe you do an annual balloon release, maybe you raise money, whatever it is, finding a way to honor her life will provide your purpose and some sunshine in the midst of those stormy days!
Just know I’m continually praying for you!