On this anniversary eve. I think back to a time when I swore I was allergic to the term “submission”… I would get dizzy followed by a headache when it was mentioned, break out in a rash when it was suggested and not be able to sleep when it was told that I needed to learn how to spell it and like it to be a “good wife.”

In fact the bible mentions it OVER and OVER again! Here are a few times it’s mentioned…

Ephesians 5:22-24 – Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

1 Peter 3:1-22 – Likewise, ye wives, [be] in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;

1 Peter 3:7 – Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with [them] according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Colossians 3:18 – Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.

Ephesians 5:22 – Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

1 Peter 3:5 – For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:

After putting up a really good fight! I eventually accepted that I needed a shift in my mindset as I transitioned into the new role of “wife”and “helpmate” to my husband!
When you become a wife there should be a transition from independent woman to co-dependency with your husband! Your husband needs to feel like the man in the relationship and not emasculated by some of our strong personalities! He needs and deserves to be respected and honored as the head of the family!

Submission does not mean do everything your husband says, nor does it mean you have to sacrifice your wants and needs to fulfill his, or obey his every command cause Lord knows I barely listen to Mr.Ward! Submission in my words mean; a deep rooted commitment to my husband, my marriage.I submitted my heart to his trusting hands, I submitted my body & soul to him to love and nurture as that is also stated in the bible!
“Christ loves His bride and is her Savior. Christ gave His life for her. Likewise, the husband is to love his wife as Christ loves His church. A husband’s love should be sacrificial, nourishing, cherishing, and protective. A man should love his wife in the same way he loves his own body ( Ephesians 5:25,28)”
Chocolate and I are just trying to live out the will of God and share it with you all! We will revisit this topic again soon.

Here’s some lyrics from Jenifer Hudson’s “Giving Myself” single that was on her self-titled album that was released in 2008.

“Handing myself over to you
Body and soul
I’m giving it over
I’m giving myself over to you..”

I sent it to my love on our wedding morning, I had officially thrown in the towel and was turning it all over to him!♥