Have you ever heard this statement?

In order to grow, we must be uncomfortable in some aspect. Either it’s in making tough decisions, facing obstacles, adapting to changes or simply stepping outside the box surrounding our comfort zone.

When we’re comfortable, typically we have developed a rhythm and perhaps it’s good..maybe it’s practical or even easy but we know what to expect and we’re okay with it even if it’s not what our heart desires.

There’s been so many times I had to make decisions that were uncomfortable to acknowledge, uncomfortable to communicate and uncomfortable to execute but I did and you can too!

One of the first of those decisions was the summer after I graduated, I knew I needed to forego college for the time being in order to help my mom with my siblings, then I had to communicate to my grandparents who were so excited that I was about to be off to college and then I had to commit to just working full-time while many of my girlfriends left for school. A decision I have never regretted but it came with having uncomfortable realizations, conversations and with sacrifice!

A few years later while sharing an apartment with my cousin who is like a sister, we hit a point where we needed a degree of separation, so more uncomfortable conversations that led to uncomfortable times (especially since then I had to pay all the bills on my own) in the end worked out for the good. She’s still my boo in current day!

About a year or so later, Chocolate had moved in with me and that was going no-where fast! We were not on the same page as far as responsibilities go so he had ta go! Yes, ta go..lol
Talk about uncomfortable. and feeling lonely..
Have you ever lived with someone and then alone? Living alone certainly has it’s perks but it’s not my favorite thing.

Then we tried the co-habitation thing again and again, it wasn’t working out but this time it was about our individual spiritual journeys and wanting to do right in the eyes of God (at least that what it was for me, I think he needed separation to sow his wild oats but that’s another story, for another day)

A few more years pass, now Chocolate and I are preparing to get married and my friends… my best friends are not as involved as I thought they would..no expected them to be and I was not happy. I had to dig deep y’all.. like to at least my knees deep to realize that it was all my fault.
I had created lop-sided friendships where I was the giver and they were receivers. Do you know how uncomfortable it is to realize that you are the root and cause of the issues you’re having?
I waited until after our wedding to address the other people’s behavior with them after acknowledging my own and all of a sudden my best friends and I were at odds for awhile.. uncomfortable… but we got through! Current day, we are all better than ever!

The takeaway here is that if you’re comfortable, you’re most likely not growing. How will you challenge yourself to new heights the rest of 2018?